I love Urban Dictionary‘s definition of a Situationship.
According to them it is “A relationship that has no label on it.. like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship.”
Sound confusing?
That’s because it is.
Situationships (relationships with ambiguous boundaries) can leave people confused, frustrated, and, in the end, broken-hearted.
It’s true that the pace at which a relationship evolves varies according to the people in it.
Taking time to really get to know one another is key to creating a strong foundation.
So I’m not saying you need a title after your first date.
However, if you’re months or even years into a relationship & you’re still unable to define it then chances are you’re in a situationship.
Clear boundaries are essential to healthy, mutually-satisfying relationships.
They define the limits AND freedoms in a relationship.
Partners can look to the boundaries to guide them, protect the relationship, and to compare against their expectations.
Having everyone on the same page leads to less confusion, more clarity, and ultimately higher levels of relationship satisfaction.
Without them, we’re left to guess & assume that our partner has the same relationship investment that we do–an assumption that often gets people in trouble.
If you want to avoid the pain of learning that you & your partner have different boundaries after someone crosses them then make sure you are each on the same relationship page.
- HAVE THE CONVERSATION.
- Define boundaries.
- Be clear on what you need/expect.
- Understand that even after the conversation, the other person may let you know that they can’t/won’t meet those needs/expectations.
And if your partner refuses to “put a label” on it when you’re asking for clear boundaries or if they refuse to even have the conversation then chances are you’re in a situationship.
Question is, are you OK with that?
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